Silva Lunae
(They/Them/Themself). Agender (Altenby) Ace/Aro. Mun born in 1994. The Sanctuary of the Abandond Cathedral pardons you of your sins. My RP sideblog is hisbodywasweak
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Some people can lift 200 pounds. But if they carried it everywhere they went for an entire day without ever putting it down, they’d severely tear their muscles and cause permanent damage to their body.
Some people can enter a 140° car in the summer to get something out of the car. But if they stayed in the car, they’d die from the heat.
Some people can hold their breath underwater for 30 seconds. But if they tried to go scuba diving without the necessary gear, they’d drown.
Clearly, someone doing something for a short period of time does not automatically mean that they can do it indefinitely with no problem.
So why do people assume that if someone can walk for a few seconds, they don’t need a wheelchair?
Clearly, someone doing something for a short period of time does not automatically mean that they can do it indefinitely with no problem.
sick of other trans people looking like a deer in the headlights when reminded that amabs can be nb too. there are really still people in our own community who think a nonbinary person is like. a woman wearing jeans
i’ve had people treat me visibly different after hearing my voice or seeing my face as if i’m some sort of predator or interloper. this attitude towards amab trans people especially nonbinary people really paints a picture of what the lgbt community thinks of gender in general
Y’know, that’s a really good point. Are we sure we want to be giving the worst businessman in known history more power in the afterlife?!
Yes, because when Trump dies and thinks he’s going to be king shit in the afterlife, ea-nasir is going to one-shot him with a shitty copper ingot upside his empty orange fucking head
Each Reblog adds another copper ingot to ea-nasir’s afterlife pile. Each like improves his aim.
Okay, here’s the thing though. It isn’t a question of if. They existed and this is exactly what they did.
After the United States entered World War II at the end of 1941 and Germany subsequently declared war upon it, Great Britain recommended several steps the United States should take in order to safeguard their ships from Nazi u-boats. Recommendations included sailing ships in convoy (preferably with escort, but records proved ships in convoy without escort were still safer than ships sailing alone), if a ship had to sail on its own, it should avoid known navigation routes and markers, and towns and cities along the East Coast should adhere to strict blackouts at night. These recommendations came from the previous two years of experience in which u-boats absolutely ran wild in the North Atlantic and North Sea, obliterating British shipping. This period of time was referred to by Nazi u-boat captains as “The First Happy Time”.
Despite British warnings, the United States was slow to follow them and impose restrictions. Ships continued to sail along marked navigation routes and run standard navigation lights at night. Boardwalk communities along the coast were only requested they turn off their lights at night and the cities weren’t even asked that because they didn’t want to offend the tourism, recreation, and business sectors.
Blacking out coastal communities would have made it infinitely harder for Nazi submarines to find and sink targets. A ship running with no lights is still visible against the backdrop of a lit city.
Conversely, a dark ship running against a dark coast is virtually invisible.
But because citizens living on the coast refused to adhere to wartime suggestions for amenity reasons, merchant ships sailing up and down the East Coast became sitting ducks of u-boats. The US government did not begin strictly enforcing blackouts until roughly August 1942. By then, the Nazis had been given 8 months to run rampant along American shores. This time period was referred to by u-boat captains as “The Second Happy Time” or “American Shooting Season”.
By August, Nazi u-boats had sunk 609 merchant vessels, totaling 3.1 million tons and costing thousands of lives, mostly of merchant mariners performing their essential jobs.
By comparison, only 22 u-boats were sunk.
While the failure of coastal blackouts were not the sole reason the Nazis had such success during this time period (the Navy was slow to implement convoys and remove notable aids to navigation along the coast), I do not think it can be argued they did not contribute significantly to such great loss of American lives.
If you can, please read the reply above or save it for whenever you have time. We need to break the habits of our history and that starts with applying our past to our present.
People who don’t understand the difference between punishment and discipline should, like, never have kids
hey op i dont understand the difference could you please explain?
Yeah ofc!! Sorry for being vague I was just venting and didnt expect reblogs haha
I’m gonna try to explain my point through examples.
Ex 1: toddler screaming and crying in the walmart
Punishment: I’m going to spank you or embarrass you or yell at you! Shut up! I’ll give you something to cry about!
Discipline: stop doing what you’re doing because it isn’t productive and it disturbs others as well as increasing your own upsetnes. I’m going to take you out of the environment that’s upsetting you until you’re calm and we can identify what upset you together so I can explain to you why it’s like that/help you find ways to productively express upsetness as you grow.
Ex 2: your teen is failing, like, all their classes
Punishment: you’re grounded! You’re not allowed to go out with your friends or play games or do anything fun or enjoyable until your work is satisfactory!
Discipline: it’s important to do well in school. You need to communicate with me when you are struggling so I can help you. You also need to learn to manage fun stuff and work as that’s an important life skill in adulthood. I’m going to monitor your work more closely so I can help you find that balance. And if this is a deeper mental or emotional issue, we can seek help for you together.
So basically, discipline is something you teach that requires time, communication, and sternness. Punishment is a single action meant to deliberately cause discomfort in an attempt to implement negative reinforcement. Not good.
Also:
Consequences can be part of discipline, as a form of teaching cause/effect, but should not be used as punishment, to coerce, or as an excuse to get rid of a child’s rights/autonomy.
Example: Toddler has been told repeatedly (and is old enough to understand the rules) not to color on the walls. Colors on walls again. No more crayons for a certain amount of time. That teaches respect for property that isn’t your own (the wall) and shows that you aren’t allowed to disregard the rules without consequences. It does not take away a child’s rights, just a privilege, and only temporarily. Another example for this age group: My daughter can’t yet turn paper pages without succumbing to the temptation to rip and eat them. So we only do board books and if she has paper page book time, we have to sit right there with her to monitor her (which she doesn’t appreciate). It’s a form of teaching and practice, not punishment.
Example: Teenager knows curfew is 11pm. Deliberately stays out til midnight and doesn’t call to explain why. Teen’s curfew either gets moved earlier, or (depending on how many times this has happened) doesn’t get to go out unsupervised for a certain length of time. This is a matter of the parent needing to see improved behavior in order to know the teen can be trusted with very important time and behavior management skills that are designed to keep the child safe.
Important aspects of consequences as part of discipline that make the difference between discipline and punishment:
Consequences must be a derivative of the broken rule. No taking away a favorite toy because the kid yelled at you. It has to connect to the rule and preferably be a natural consequence. For younger kids you may have to introduce some artificial ones, like the crayon example above, but it should connect directly to the action and lesson you’re trying to teach. Kid breaks rule about electronics in the bath and breaks phone or tablet? No immediate replacement/repair. Natural consequence.
Must NEVER violate the child’s needs or rights. Socially isolating your teenager is violating a need. Refusing to give them or allow them food is violating a need and a right. Never withhold rights or needs as a “consequence,” that’s just a punishment.
Consequences should be the result of an established rule. No making things up on the fly and then introducing a consequence right then. You didn’t give the child a chance to learn it or practice!
Consequences should be agreed upon (older kids) and warned about (all ages) beforehand. This ties in with the last one. Warn your child what the consequences will be before they break the rule. For the crayon example, the child should have been told many times that if they keep coloring on the walls, they don’t get to play with their crayons anymore for ‘x amount of time’. Expectations should be specific. For older kids, let them help decide appropriate consequences. This gives them a sense of autonomy and helps them make connections between their behavior and the results. For teens, they help decide curfew, and what privileges they lose if they break curfew, how they should go about earning them back, etc. All this should happen WAY before the consequences ever have to be implemented, so they know beforehand what’s at stake and have a tangible reason to abide by the rules instead of the more nebulous ones (to keep you safe, because you need sleep, because night is dangerous, etc).
Consequences should be specific, and should be stated explicitly. For the crayons example, you would tell the child “We have a rule not to color on the walls. I reminded you several times not to color on the walls, and I see you colored on them anyway. So now you don’t get to play with your crayons for two days. We have to be nice to the walls and not color on them, so we will play with the crayons another time.” When the child inevitably asks for the crayons back before the time limit is up, you remind them why they can’t have the crayons- “you colored on the walls after we asked you nicely not to do it, so you have to wait until tomorrow to have them back.” For the teen, it will be easier because they have a longer memory and were (hopefully) involved in deciding the consequences to begin with.
Consequences must be consistent. If the rule/consequence pair is “no TV before homework is done or else you don’t get your screen time after dinner,” you have to stick with it each time. Otherwise, it doesn’t teach anything except that you are inconsistent and they never know what they can expect from you.
Basically, anything designed to force the child into submission or compliance or make them afraid of you is punishment and is not going to teach them anything. Consequences have their place but only as teaching tools to help shape responsible behavior, not as a way to make your child obey you.
Oh! And grades, emotions, physical abilities, and anything else that isn’t a behavioral choice should NEVER be “rules.” Eg., no “all a’s” rules or “no crying about such-and-such.” Rules should be about choices, and so should consequences. Discipline applies to every situation, but consequences don’t.
Here is the UN convention on the rights of the child - some of these may seem may seem basic when you’re already onto the higher levels of considering discipline: children have the right to be alive, children have the right to protection from abuse and neglect. However, though rights 2 and 4 state that all children have these rights and all governments should work as hard as possible to uphold them and right 42 says that governments have a responsibility to ensure children and adults are educated about the rights of children, these rights are violated all the time in both dire situations and in the course of ordinary life in ways that probably no one who is involved even realises.
Are all schools, parents and carers upholding right 15 (Children can join or set up groups or organisations, and they can meet with others, as long as this does not harm other people), right 16 (Every child has the right to privacy. The law must protect children’s privacy, family, home, communications and reputation (or good name) from any attack), right 31 (Every child has the right to rest, relax, play and to take part in cultural and creative activities) and right 17 (Children have the right to get information
from the Internet, radio, television,
newspapers, books and other sources.
Adults should make sure the information
they are getting is not harmful. Governments
should encourage the media to share
information from lots of different sources, in languages
that all children can understand)? I KNOW that right 23 (Every child with a disability should enjoy the best possible life in society. Governments should remove all obstacles for children with disabilities to become independent and to participate actively in the community) and right 22 (Children who move from their home country to another country as refugees (because it was not safe for them to stay there) should get help and protection and have the same rights as children born in that country) are not being upheld consistently.
I work in a Rights Respecting school - as part of normal daily practice, we talk to children about their rights and teach them to use them in conversation with adults, especially if they need to stand up for themselves. You might ask, isn’t it annoying when you tell little Sally that they are going to stay in at playtime if they throw another pencil across the room at defenceless little Susie’s head and they say back to you in a snide little voice, “ha ha, you can’t stop me from having playtime because it says so in Right 31″ Well yes, it is annoying, but nevertheless, I am intellectually if not practically grateful for every one of the many times that has happened, because it reminds me that besides morality and ethics, there are plenty of other reasons children have the right rest, relax and play and one of them is that the quickest way for this behaviour to escalate from some light pencil throwing to some chair throwing and full-on, unwinnable defiance is if I prevent little Sally from having a goddamn minute to herself to run in a circle outside and scream her rage at the uncaring clouds above her. So instead, we let her have ten minutes to calm down and then we have a conversation about how I’m a duty bearer and I must uphold all the children’s rights equally and that in fact Sally does have a right to play, but she is also infringing on Susie’s right to an education (hard to concentrate when dodging pencils), an adequate standard of living and health. I have a responsibility to put a stop to Sally’s behaviour because I am a duty-bearer (as all adults who are around children are). And then we probably have a little restorative convo with Sally and Susie both present and then Sally probably is not allowed to have her pencil case on the desk for the rest of the day. Maybe she has to come up to my desk to get each item when she needs it and that’s pretty annoying, so that might be the end of that. Yes, I really have that whole conversation out with kids, even little ones, and yes, they understand it perfectly well (I don’t always use the word ‘infringing’ but sometimes I do). Maybe with some kids I have to have it a hundred times, because in the heat of the moment, it’s hard to remember that all children and in this school we uphold them, but it sinks in over time.
As -10F hits area’s of the US who’ve never seen such temperatures in living memory, I wanted to give some tips from a Minnesotan who’s lived with these temps as a part of my life for 37 years.
1) Don’t Get Cocky. People used to these temps may laugh at our southern neighbors freaking out about the cold because yes, some parts of the US get such temps regularly every year. These people are being ignorant assholes. Our houses are mandated to have insulation that few of your homes will have. We pretty much all have huge puffy coats, and have well established winter weather gear drives for homeless and poor folks every year. We have expensive, well equipped infrastructure for cope with these temps and with large amounts of snow. You don’t. When it comes down to it, Minnesotans know to respect the cold temps- it’s just that a lot of the ways that do it are so commonplace as to be invisible to those who already have these habits.
2) Don’t go out wet. Dry your hair or stay inside. You will loose a lot of heat if you’re wet. Same for sweat, and wet diapers. And clothes with snow on them are now WET CLOTHES. Change into dry clothes as soon as possible.
3) If you have a shitty car battery or a car that sometimes struggles to start, then try not to use it. You’re unlikely to get the kind of temps where it’s impossible to start an engine (I’ve only experienced those temps a few times. Once my eyelashes froze shut and I almost froze to death in my own back yard. Don’t be like young me. Respect the cold.) If your car doesn’t start, you could be stranded somewhere, and realistically your area’s emergency services may be pretty overrun.
4) Very cold air doesn’t hold moisture well. Plan for extra hydration for people, pets, and plants. Even if your staying in- most home heaters pull cold air from outside, then dry it out even MORE in the process of heating it. Dehydration is a thing. Even if your home’s heater has a humidifier attached to it (if you’re not sure, then it probably doesn’t.) it’s a good idea to drink extra water. Right now I have a few pots of water just left out by heaters to evaporate as much as possible. My mom used to just heat huge camping pots on the stove all day in cold temps. Remember, dry nasal passages really muck up your bodies ability to fight airborne illness. This is not a great time for that.
5) Help out homeless folks in your area in any way you can. These temps can and do kill. And since we have more evictions than any society can conscionably defend this year, we have high numbers of homeless people. Which means area supports for unhoused folks are often underfunded and over-taxed.
6) Let your faucets drip. I know nobody likes to waste water but if your pipes freeze they will literally explode. Your home will flood. My mother’s kitchen got completely destroyed and it traumatized my childhood dog. Justa bit of moving warm water will safeguard you from that.
7) Do. Not. Burn. Propane. Indoors.
8) Plan for potential power outages. Ice on the lines can cause this and again, your infrastructure isn’t prepped for this. Unplug anything in your home you’re not using to do your part to help prevent rolling blackouts.
9) Driving on ice is a SKILL. Your roads may be filled with people who do not have that skill. Please please, stay off the roads if you can- even if you have this skill these roads will not be prepped and will, again, be full of people who don’t know how to do this because it just hasn’t come up that much in their life.
Stay safe and stay kind, folks!
10) tennis shoes soak through fast in snow. Tennis shoes are not your friend. I know you don’t have snow boots - why the fuck would you - but do you have rain boots? Hiking boots? *anything* that has more waterproofing than tennis shoes? Wear those instead.
